The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.
Developing an attitude to accept things as they are, makes life less complicated. Challenges and pains happen and how we shape our relationship with them is important. The process to heal or to find solutions starts with accepting the reality. Surely is not about tolerance or denial but the willingness to see things as they are. When you have pain, the feeling is real. You will not remain passive to the sensation, you feel it and you do something about it.
Clearly, we have a tendency to abandon a distressing aspect of a situation and cling to nicer ones or withdraw from a tedious experience or look the other way to our own conduct. This kind of attitude suggests that we refuse to see the reality because obviously, we do stumble upon bad circumstances or infuriating individuals. That being so, we cannot walk away or ignore every time there is an irritant. Acceptance is to acknowledge your emotions and not to avoid but to explore.
Changing the habit of non-acceptance
- Let the sensations come and go
- Do not take things personally
- Acceptance is not choosing over your preference
- Let go of control, not everything is what we imagine nor what we believe
- Do not react to the unwanted situation
- Take your focus away from what you agree or disagree
- Recognize that flaws do exist in life, in people and in your own doings and point of views
- Detach yourself from distressing thought by not giving too much weight to it
- Create a supportive slogan for yourself to accept things as they are, in challenging moments
Ultimately, by allowing things to be as they are and by staying neutral, you will learn to cultivate acceptance attitude to reduce your anger, remain calm and eventually find solutions. Remind yourself that the sensations that you feel are magnified. Just like in a horror movie, the knife is on the kitchen counter, but it does not mean that you will be stabbed with it. Being mindful is to know that you don’t have to solve everything nor to change it at once.