Accepting all facets of yourself elevates you to a higher level of your being. When you recognize your weaknesses you are shifting towards a mindset that thrives from a position of strength. Imagine in a job interview, where you are focused to point out your best qualities, skill sets and ambitions and as soon as the question of listing your weaknesses is raised you are quick to hush it up. How? Either by changing the subject swiftly or by expressing your enthusiasm to acquire the required skill.
Regardless of which response you choose, you have to realize that self-acceptance is free of any qualification. It happens when you are deeply connected to your true self and you are aware that your passion, your inadequacies, your resolve or shortcomings are part of you. Just by spicing up your self-perception with a little bit of encouragement and a mindset that is keen to learn from mistakes you will stamp the sign of self-acceptance on your personal résumé. Without it, your mental state will suffer and most probably all the actions taken to improve the side effects will be less helpful.
In particular, if you feel anxious or stressed from a flaw in your character, all kinds of practices to reduce the unwanted emotions will be quick to fade from lack of self-acceptance. All the negative self-talk and thoughts will limit the gray matter in your brain region which helps to control your emotions and stress. The more you feel bad about yourself more stress signals disrupt your emotional wellbeing.
How to strengthen self-acceptance
- Reframe the negative criticism and change the narrative by refocusing on the positive aspects of yourself.
- Control your state of mind by being self-aware. For instance, when you feel bitter, observe that your focus is evaluating your emotions based on your triggered feelings. This approach is misleading. Move away from how you feel and assess the feeling based on your values before you react or retaliate.
- Practice self-transcendence – Lack of self-acceptance is often beyond your conscious control. To give an example, the intentional process of forgiveness, whether oneself or another, has lots of roundabouts, water puddles and intersections. The path is confusing since you can either choose the road that is clear so that you can keep going without wasting time or you can get to the other jammed packed lane, hampered by the gridlock and be miserable. The first step is to accept that the two lanes exist, side by side. The same acknowledgement should be extended to different facets of your character. In such a situation, self-transcendence is constructive. The goal of this positive trait is to create awareness and unity with oneself which in turn reduces stress and anxiety.
Taking a step to look inward and rely more on your own values rather than identify your being with things outside of yourself reframes your self-perception. For instance, transcendental meditation or connecting at a deeper level by contribution to a venture or a community, de-clutters your mind of unnecessary and negative energies. At the heart of all your practices, unity is your guide. Adhering to a higher purpose, confronting your fears, staying positive are the extensive attempts to reach self-acceptance.
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