It would be helpful if every time you act upon your impulsive ego, a holographic screen appears in front of your eyes, which would shed light to “why” and outlines the motive! Or, perhaps, you go through an out of body experience to watch how you are entrapped in heedless and primitive impulses, which impel you to be helpless and act irrationally. Possibly, in future, with the help of technology, you will be able to materialise such a visual awareness. Till then, you might as well resort to certain practice that will push you to another level of existence, far beyond vain confusion.
First of all, let’s reflect on the sense of ego. Whether you delve into Eastern philosophy where ego reflects “I, Self” or western psychoanalysis, which in practice defines ego as: “the part of the mind that mediates between the conscious and the unconscious and is responsible for reality testing and a sense of personal identity”, both recognize that uncontrolled and impulsive ego will lead to suffering.
Moving through different stages of ego to become the best version of yourself is not an easy path. The truth is that if you are lucky, life will sweep you through nasty havoc that will wound your self-identity and crush your image. A breakdown that can lead to a breakthrough by feeding the ideal self. Now, rising up from the ashes is to take responsibility for your own wellbeing. It starts with the realization that your thoughts are tainted by subjectivity and emotions. Since, your mind has found security in the sense of belonging to the wrong structures, misinterpreted values, and clearly egocentric pursuits.
While you are climbing up the spiral staircase of your spiritual evolution, I suggest you observe and question your motives, your triggers, contradictions and practice the following transformational self-help:
- Gain clarity by self-reflection and self-criticism – question your goal, if you feel uneasy about your reactions, cross-examine yourself to align your intent to your core essence. Self-analysis is not about beating up oneself, or agonizing but to understand the triggers, your role in the event and blowing away the pollution so that the image of your intentions becomes sharp and transparent. The focus should be on you and not others.
- See yourself from another point of view – use abstract thinking to match your motives to your best possible self. That entails, imagining your future “Self” in unpleasant circumstances only this time you are channelling your energy to shield your best version. By setting unwavering rules to be of service to all, however, is possible and live as a human your future “Self” releases toxic struggles and replace the void with contentment.
- Question the expectations – step back and reassess your approach and your expectations and how they connect to the problem. By re-evaluating the expectations you will recognize the difference whether they are conventional & reactionary or wise and tolerant.
Remember you cannot fill the bowl with water if is turned upside down. To be fully alive is to be well-disposed to “Self” and others. The key is to question your motives every time the destructive “Self”/ “ego” appears. Taking a volunteering leap to an inspired “Self” is to use your knowledge, patiently and for the good. Have grit, as the journey is bumpy and evidently, the spiral staircase will not get easier. You will fall back a few steps and you will be aware of your own limitations. However, regardless of the hardships, this time, with conviction and a humbled “ego”, you know how to get up quickly and how to wipe up the dust. Finally, as you go further, you realize that gratitude and generosity are your mental tools to serve and use your power for the benefit of others so that you act like an intelligent being.
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